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Tales of the Rabbinate, Part I

    An enterprising and concerned individual just brought the following to my attention. The short story is about me, but the longer story is about how Rabbis deal with recalcitrant husbands (who capriciously and maliciously refuse to give their wives gittin)and the perils of modern life. One such evil husband was a Givon (Harland) Zirkind, who made his wife an aguna over ten years ago, prompting back then a local Rabbinic and lay demonstration outside his home which did not ultimately succeed in persuading him.

   He recently wrote a self-published and tendentious account rationalizing his misdeeds, and attacking every rabbi who sought to have him divorce his wife as the Torah obligates divorcing men to do. In his attempt to impugn me, he wrote: “The Lanner affair is still a big scandal. What surprises me about how the community reacted to Lanner was that Rabbi Pruzansky; of Teaneck NJ and the Rabbinical Council of Bergen County; was never forced to resign for his complicity and remains the pulpit rabbi of the largest synagogue in Teaneck. Teaneck is a very wealthy, densely populated Jewish community. The community was incensed over the scandal. Synagogues stopped paying their dues to the OU as a boycott demanding action. But, Rabbi Pruzansky, who with his rabbinical court, had actively been involved in covering up Rabbi Lanner’s sexual abuse of children, had not been forced to resign !”

     The “exclamation point” at the end is a little over-heated, and I cannot figure out why he used the two semi-colons the way he did. The sad part is that I remember this Zirkind as a real mental case, which is often the situation in aguna matters. The libelous part is that almost every assertion in the paragraph he published is false, blatantly false. Lies. If he weren’t utterly destitute, I would sue him for libel. If he actually belonged to a community, or the community of the sane, I would seek to have him banned. But he is already banned.

     Here’s the truthful part of the statement above: I am the “pulpit rabbi of the largest synagogue in Teaneck.” Here are the falsehoods:

1)      I was never involved in the Lanner case in any capacity, formal or informal. There was no “complicity” on my part. Lanner’s crimes preceded my tenure in Teaneck. The accusations against him took place while I was living in Queens. Zirkind, in his delusional state, apparently has me confused with some of my colleagues who have lived here for more than 30 years and knew Lanner both personally and professionally.

2)      My “rabbinical court,” far from being “actively…involved in covering up” the abuses, has only been in existence for three years and deals exclusively with matters of conversion. It is not even “my” rabbinical court, but the Bet Din of the Rabbinical Council of Bergen County, founded in 2007, almost a decade after Zirkind’s contemptible treatment of his wife and two decades after the Lanner crimes in Bergen County.

3)      Far from being “complicit” or “covering up,” I barely knew Lanner. I do not think I have even seen him more than a half-dozen times in my life, and I might have said “hello” once. My “involvement” in his matter was limited to denouncing him publicly, urging children in our shul who have been abused to inform their parents, and informing parents that, in such cases, to bypass me and go right to the police – the correct address for criminal charges. I was completely uninvolved in his prosecution, defense, the original accusations, the later accusations, the Bet Din, the informal discussions, etc. – simply uninvolved.

4)      Teaneck is not at all “densely populated.” The homes are very evenly spaced, with plenty of land for all residents.

         He went on to write that he heard a rumor that I got “flack” from my Board for getting involved in this case. Sorry, Harley. It was never mentioned to me; I received not even a fleck of flack.

     One tragedy of modern life is that I am forced to address this at all. In years past, I would have ignored it, remembering the psychological instability of the author. But the Internet has dramatically changed the way we live. News travels fast, and Mark Twain’s quote (attributed to him, at least) that “a lie can travel halfway round the world while the truth is putting on its shoes” is exponentially truer today. The Internet has a way of making a public record and ruining reputations almost instantaneously, and ignoring what is written just feeds the beast. The greater tragedy, then, is that people will read and believe what they read, without endeavoring to find out more information or background as to the provenance of what they read. That is how I even found out about this – someone read it and brought it to my attention.

    So, this is a correction of the public record – a complete and utter denial of all charges level against me by a tragic individual with grudges against many Rabbis. There are rabbis who are intimidated into eschewing involvement in aguna issues because the reaction of the recalcitrant spouse is often publicly vindictive and threatening; I trust those rabbis are few in number. It is better to do the right thing, and then respond to the vitriol and abuse that invariably follows. That is sometimes the price for doing the right thing, and it is a price that most rabbis are willing to pay.

      After the initial demonstration in this matter, and repeated efforts to induce Zirkind to give his wife a get, the local Rabbis withdrew when the wife-in-question rejected our advice on how to proceed, and followed other rabbinic advice. This was over a decade ago. They were not members of my synagogue, and I do not know whether in fact the couple is reconciled, divorced, estranged, etc. Somehow, the author here surfaced again in the last year or so with bundles of grievances against the rabbis who tried to get him to do the right thing.

     In summary, I was not even remotely connected to the Lanner scandal as a principal, a bit player or through the OU. Zero. Nada. Gornisht.  My OU involvement at the time was restricted to consuming the products whose kashrut they supervised.

      Consider this a repudiation of everything Zirkind wrote – and a challenge: Is it too much to expect that even a sad and demented individual should be able to recognize his error and publicly apologize ?

Showdown

    The most frightening aspect of a possible “federal government shutdown” is the politicians’ realization that most Americans will not notice. While Tip O’Neill famously stated “all politics is local,” what is less disputable is that all services are local. Clearly, the federal government has vital functions to perform, especially in the realm of security and defense. But most of what they do is unknown to the average person because they do not benefit or affect the average person.

    That is why the illustration of the hardships of a government “shutdown” is the closure of national parks and museums, and the photo op is always of the unfortunate family whose planned vacation in a national park has been thwarted by the selfish politicians. Of course, there is no logical reason why the national parks have to be closed, or even museums for that matter. Having visited many across the country, I have noticed that most charge admission, and so should be able to pay for itself. Five hundred daily visitors to a national park generate thousands of dollars in revenue, which could easily pay park employees. It is one of the few government enterprises that actually earn money in return for providing a product that people actually want – so no wonder they close them; it is atypical of government.  But, in fact, parks and museums are chosen for closure because they inflict real discomfort on real people.

    This begs the question, of course, of why the federal government manages these parks at all. Every park(and museum) is located in a state (or DC), so the states could just as well manage their own tourist attractions and reap the revenue. The other cases of “hardship” – the inability of small businesses to obtain federal loans or the shutdown of some federal mortgage programs (the Fanny/Freddy boondoggle that has ripped off billions from taxpayers apparently stays in business) – are also contrived. Presumably, local banks are better situated to evaluate the credit-worthiness of local businesses, so the intrusion of the feds distorts the lending system by providing loans to unworthy recipients (who will invariably default, leaving the taxpayers holding the bill). Ditto the federal home loan mortgage guarantee program – that in the early 2000s failed so utterly – that also underwrites home purchases by people who largely should not be purchasing homes. If these programs are on hiatus for a week or so, no one will notice.

   But imagine if the Departments of Education, Energy, Agriculture, Commerce and the Interior had to close – and permanently ? Is there anyone who could find even ten people who would be affected, short-term or long-term ? One of the principal methods of income redistribution presided over by President Obama has been the growth in government employment since he took office. Not a person hired produces any income, but all consume the income of working people, and, has been widely reported, earn more for similar jobs – and with lifetime security – than their peers do in the private sector. Indeed, the other potential horror trotted out is the inability of people to receive their government checks in a timely fashion, or, in other words, the shutdown will throw a monkey wrench into the income redistribution apparatus.

   The richest comment of impending doom came from Maryland’s liberal Senator Barbara Mikulski who asserted that closing the National Institutes of Health will set back cancer research when they are just now on the brink of discovering the cure. Hmmm… We certainly hope their research is not impeded, but even if a cure presented itself, say, tomorrow, it would be many months, if not years, before the FDA allowed it on the market! Once again, this is another pol’s attempt to humanize – to put a face on – the “suffering” that will accrue to the average person in case of a government shutdown – and falling woefully short. And most research was conducted in the private sector anyway – at least until Obama decided to target the evil pharmaceutical companies for their “obscene” profits, earned trying to market the drugs that cure the diseases that the NIH was unable to discover while on the government tab.

    It is certainly sad if government workers lose their jobs, however bloated the federal government is, but there might be no other recourse. But here’s the irony of the pain of the “shutdown:” federal workers that are furloughed do not receive their wages, until they return to work – and then they are given back pay for the paychecks missed. In other words, if the government shuts down, these non-essential workers will not work but will still get paid eventually. So why don’t they just work ? Because this government, as currently constituted, does not work.

     The farce is overwhelming, and the showmanship exceeds that of a Kabuki theater. The pols are fighting over whether this year’s deficit will be 1,500,000,000 or 1,450,000,000 (that’s trillion), and the congressmen, Senators, and President (and staffs) will of course still get paid in the event of the shutdown. That is another crime – because neither side is ready to come to grips with life’s reality that you can’t spend what you don’t have. The Democratic pleas for “maturity” and “compromise” from the other side amounts to a demand that everyone continue business as usual, play the media game for partisan advantage but at the end of the day just cut checks for each side’s pet projects as before.

     Here’s hoping the government does shut down for a time, or longer. Essential services will continue, and local services that most affect our lives will go on without change. We will see exactly what we are overpaying for in Washington.

     The fear of that realization taking root in the nation – even with the pictures of the family of five unnecessarily locked out of Yosemite and Yellowstone – will drive the parties to an agreement that will still not have embraced the real challenges of America’s economic future.

Budget Woes

     The solons on Capitol Hill, with their fellow travelers in the White House, are again predicting the direst consequences if a new federal budget is not approved later this week and the government is thereby “shut down.” This movie (tragedy/comedy) has been shown before, and it always seems as if at the very last moment, somehow all parties reach agreement to fund their respective pet projects in the hopes of spending their way to re-election. I am actually hoping that no budget is passed, and curious to see what a government “shutdown” looks like. The truth is that the government will never shut down, and here’s why.

    The main problem is the $1.5 trillion deficit that is only escalating, but more on that in a moment. The budget proposed by the feds (supported by the White House) envisions spending $3.9 trillion, with government revenues only $2.4 trillion. (There was a time when “trillion” was an unimaginable figure.) However you slice the budget –whatever fantasy spending is contemplated by the politicians – the reality is that the government is taking in $2.4 trillion in the present fiscal year. The government need not “shut down” because it still has $2.4 trillion to spend. It can spend that $2.4 trillion wisely by doing what financially strapped people do – real people, that is – what is known as prioritizing. But prioritizing is a novel concept for politicians, because their metric for success – re-election – is theoretically based on their capacity to spend someone else’s money on programs and boondoggles that will endear them to their constituents.

    For Democrats and Republicans to be haggling over whether to cut $16 billion or $73 billion from the current multi-trillion dollar budget shows that neither party has a surfeit of serious people. They may wear finely-tailored suits, and be neatly coiffed, and speak in a poised and presentable way – but Congress and the White House contain too many unserious people, and the contemporary political system is steering the United States towards collapse.

   President Bush is rightly criticized for his budgetary mismanagement. His last “normal” year budget – 2008 – had a deficit of almost a half-trillion dollars – but that embarrassing number pales before this year’s mess. In the collapse years of 2008-2009 (fiscal year 2009), Bush ran a deficit of $1.4 trillion, artificially inflated by the bailouts, the TARP, and other consequences of the financial sector woes. (And before we blame the Bush tax cuts, let us recall that from 2004 to 2007, federal tax revenues increased by $785 billion, the largest four-year increase in American history, all in the wake of the Bush tax cuts.) But that number – the $1.4 trillion deficit – was unique in that it allegedly required spending in order to “save the financial system from collapse.” Let the economists argue that one for the next few decades, but that President Obama has continued – and increased – that same profligacy, without the same exigency, is absolutely disgraceful. His spending has little to do with the economy itself, and much to do with payoffs to those who feed him votes – especially government employees and unionized workers. Keep Other People’s Money flowing into their hands, and the votes flow right back. It is a system that is primed for the downfall of the American Empire.

     And for those pols in both parties who cannot see any way to spend what the government takes in, a simple question presents: so why have any fiscal discipline at all ? If running $1.5 trillion annual deficits is not a problem worth addressing seriously, then why not run a $3 trillion annual deficit ? Or maybe $10 trillion deficits annually ? It is clear that the government will never be able to pay off the total deficit of $15 trillion – so why try ? What can the Chinese, who lend us the money, do ? Nothing. They live in fear of the Federal Reserve devaluing the dollar to make repayments easier, thereby undercutting the value of their investment. So why not run the table and satisfy the needs of every single interest group ? Let there be no limits ! Every American run to the government trough for your feeding !

   Obama comes in for special criticism, because he is no longer dealing with a fiscal crisis, has zero interest in reducing the deficit at all, and instead begins this week his re-election campaign fund-raising. One recalls that Obama fired the CEO of General Motors when that company saw its product become unpopular, its revenues decline and its losses pile up. So why doesn’t the same standard apply to Obama himself ? Obama is CEO of a business – the United States Government – that is so far in the red it will never emerge, and with absolutely no plans to make it solvent. How can he even run for re-election ? Because politics is not at all about governance but rather about money, power, and winning. A serious person – Paul Ryan of Wisconsin, for one – struggles even to be heard, because he is speaking a different language than his fellow pols.

    If I had $2.4 trillion to spend, and sought to have a mature conversation with my fellow citizens, I would inform them (much like Chris Christie is doing here in New Jersey) that pols of years past made promises that were unrealistic and that cannot be kept without bankrupting the country. We have to focus first on the basic needs that a federal government should provide: security and defense, ensuring free access for all to a free trade system by enforcement of commercial norms, laws, standards and contracts, and guaranteeing the freedoms granted to individual citizens under the Bill of Rights.

   That should be government. But what is government is a behemoth that is in the charity business, the health care business, the foreign-state building business, the media business, the culture business, and a host of other businesses that it has no business being in – and without the money to underwrite it. Indeed, almost every other aspect of government life other than those outlined above are essentially the primary goal of liberal government today – the wealth-re-distribution industry, or seizing money from the productive in order to give it to the unproductive. Ideally, caring for the downtrodden should be the responsibility of local governments if they were properly managed, but under no circumstances should there be tolerance for multi-generational “downtroddens.”

     One government expenditure is always of great interest to Jews: foreign aid, especially to Israel. There are numerous politicians who pander to US Jews by robotically assuring the potentates who lead US-Jewish organizations that funds for Israel will always continue, never to be cut, and a small handful that cut their budgetary teeth on the elimination of foreign aid, including to Israel. In truth, I am of two minds about this, and people should be aware of the reality of American foreign aid to Israel. On one hand, Israel is not at all a poor country (it has pockets of self-inflicted poverty, mostly in the sector that eschews gainful employment) and I sat in Congress and applauded in July 1996 when PM Netanyahu ( in his first tenure) promised to wean Israel off American economic aid – and he did so.

    On the other hand, Israel “receives” today $3 billion in military assistance, but with the proviso that 70% of that money (or $2.1 billion) must be spent in the United States. It comes out that US military assistance to Israel subsidizes the American arms industry, as the grant compels Israel to spend that money here, and prevents Israel from developing its own weapons industry in those same areas and competing with American companies across the world. If the US, say, would cease its military assistance to Israel, Israel would undoubtedly suffer in the short term, but would have to begin manufacturing its own planes, helicopters, missiles, other ordnance, etc. and sell it globally – and that would gravely impact the US arms industry. Does government have a role in subsidizing the production of weapons ? Certainly, under the first category listed above. In effect, US military (foreign) aid to Israel is probably the most justifiable form of foreign aid for the benefits that accrue to American industry (for sure, those weapons that the US “sells” to Israel are manufactured in the districts of influential congressmen, and provide thousands of jobs to Americans), and notwithstanding the other benefits of the US-Israel alliance in combating first Communism and now radical Islam.

    I cite this example not only to justify this type of foreign aid, but also to make the case that such an analysis should be typical of every government expenditure but sadly is not. Or, at least, it hasn’t been in the past. That Medicare and Medicaid threatens to bankrupt the country is obvious to all, and that Social Security is the largest Ponzi/Madoff scheme in history was known even to FDR, who nonetheless endorsed it. But a government that cannot even seriously contemplate eliminating the funding of a public radio and television network in a marketplace where those should compete with others, and refuses to even stop its funding of arts and obscure and usually meaningless research, is like the welfare case who insists on spending money on movies and a new flat screen TV. In other words, it is a government led by immature, power-hungry profligates who are supported by hordes of parasitic freeloaders with permanently-outstretched hands (who use those hands also to provide the votes that keep the carousel spinning) and which as presently constituted could never address the most challenging aspects of the federal budget.

    And they would have us believe it is the Tea Party that is dangerous.

(P.S.  My deepest thanks to the Jewish Press and editor Jason Maoz who selected this site, among others, as one of the best Jewish blogs of 2010-2011. See the full list at http://www.jewishpress.com/pageroute.do/47678)

Eat, Pray, Love

   Well, forget the “eat” part. But what is the connection between “pray” and “love”?

     The Torah restricted donations to the Tabernacle to those people “whose hearts motivated them” to give. But it is the only mitzva in the Torah that is so circumscribed – the Torah never says observe Shabbat only if your heart is into it, eat kosher food only when your motivation is pure, or learn Torah only when you are in the mood. Those are absolutes – we are commanded to perform those mitzvot regardless of our internal state. Yet, here the Torah constrains the participants of this mitzva. Why ? What should it matter to the treasurer how you feel when you pay your dues ?

     Of course, this mitzva – and another that partakes of a similar framework – both come under the rubric of avoda – service of G-d. The Talmud (Taanit 2b) quotes the famous verse we recite daily in Sh’ma and comments:  “‘…to love G-d and to serve Him with all your heart.’ What is the service of the heart ? Prayer.” Both prayer and contributions to the Sanctuary depend on and are defined by the engagement of the heart. But how do we engage the “heart” in these activities?

     A recent visitor raised a question about a common phrase in our davening that I had never noticed before. More than one thousand times a year, we recite in the amida the (17th) blessing that begins “Retzai”, that “G-d should find favor with the Jewish people and their prayers, and restore the service to the Sanctuary, “v’ishai yisrael u’tefilatam b’ahava tekabel b’ratzon.”  Leaving aside the question of to which clause “v’ishai yisrael” (the fire-offerings of Israel) belongs – former or latter – please focus on the last four words: “u’tefilatam b’ahava tekabel b’ratzon“/ ArtScroll translates as “…their prayer…accept with love and favor;” Metzuda Siddur: “accept their prayer, lovingly and willingly;” and the new Koren siddur: “Accept in love and favor …their prayer.”

      Unfortunately, unanimity here trumps exactitude, because the translation does not precisely convey the meaning of the words. The translations would be correct if the words were juxtaposed – “b’ahava u’v’ratzon” – “with love and favor” (just like that phrase b’ahava u’v’ratzon  is utilized every Shabbat in Kiddush – “in love and favor You gave us Your holy Shabbat  as a heritage.”) But here it does not say that. It reads “u’tefilatam b’ahava tekabel b’ratzon”- the “love” and the “favor” are separated.

      What are we saying, according to the exact translation?  That You, G-d, should “accept our prayers that are offered with love.” It is obvious: if the tefilot are not offered with love, then how can we ask G-d to find favor in them ?

    I only found corroboration for this elucidation in one of the commentaries – that of Rav Shimon Schwab in “Rav Schwab on Prayer.” He too was troubled by this phraseology, and he explained it the same way, and stated that when he recites this blessing, he mentally places a comma after b’ahava:“u’tefilatam b’ahava, tekabel b’ratzon“/ In context, in this blessing, he suggests, we are asking nothing for ourselves. It is out of our pure love of G-d that we want His presence to permeate the world – so that “our eyes should witness Your return to Zion in compassion.”

      But perhaps the intention is even more expansive, and is meant as a commentary on prayer generally. A prayer that is not offered out of love is simply… words. Words. A contribution given to the Tabernacle in which the heart is disengaged – and is done perfunctorily, without feeling, sensitivity, or gratitude – is unwelcome, and unworthy of us. The arena of divine service demands engagement of the heart, because the whole purpose of the mitzva is perfection of the heart. It is not only the action of prayer that has to be carried out with love, but the person himself must be in a state of love when he recites his prayers. That is much rarer than we care to admit.

    Rav Kook wrote that the study of Torah is divine service with our minds and intellects. We develop and perfect our minds, all in line with G-d’s word. But prayer is divine service with our emotions (Orot Hakodesh I:252), another dimension of the human personality. For sure, the intellect is more reliable than the emotions in ascertaining truth, and is also more exalted – but the emotions are a more credible determinant of who we are and of how we perceive ourselves. We sometimes know things that we do not internalize, that do not animate us, and that do not even speak to us. We can know things that are not really a part of us. But we are how we feel. It is therefore that internal state that we bring to our davening – and that makes it either vacuous and mechanical or meaningful and heartfelt.

     We are experts in the obligations of prayer, and in satisfying those obligations often monotonously. A popular book on tefila contains a chapter on “Twelve Strategies to Getting Your Prayers Accepted,” as if that is a primary goal of tefila. Of course, some strategies are valid, some are better than others and some are just shtik (in deference to the modern dumbing down of Judaism). But entirely omitted was our simple phrase “u’tefilatam b’ahava tekabel b’ratzon” – “accept with favor their prayers that are recited with love.” Prayers that are recited with love are accepted; prayers that emanate from our hearts and that reflect our inner world find divine favor. To pray (properly) is to love, and to love is to desire to pray.

    And even more: those who pray with love find “eternal favor.” In a world that is filled with uncertainty and in which our enemies abound, the only certainty we have is in tefila – in our direct line to G-d that is contingent on the “offerings of our heart.” Only then will we merit beholding His return to Zion, and His protective hand that nourishes our eternal bond with Him, and our eternity as a people.