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THE PERMANENT CAMPAIGN

      What has no beginning, yet goes on and on and never ends ? The American elections. One might think that the interminable process concludes exactly two weeks from today, on Election Day, but that would be a serious error. Those elections – for a new House of Representatives and a third of the Senate – are just the prelude to the next campaign for which the jockeying, the handicapping of the “horse race,” the raising of enormous sums of money, and the negativity has already begun.

  By contrast, elections in a parliamentary democracy occur much quicker, draw greater participation from the public, and are more meaningful. In the UK, elections can take place within three weeks, and in Israel within three months or less. The election season is very intense, but more focused on the key issues that concern the electorate. Voters get a snapshot of the candidates and can decide who is more attuned to their needs. Money plays a far more limited role in determining the outcomes than in American elections. For sure, those campaigns can get just as sleazy and nasty as those we have here, but the redeeming quality is that they are mercifully brief. The poison that seeps into society from the election season that polarizes the electorate here is contained there. They may be passionate, but they don’t suffer from a uniquely American malady: election burnout.

We have been hearing analyses, and reading polls, at least since the winter about the coming Democratic debacle, may it be G-d’s will. Night after night, the same talk often from the same people about the same issues and the same personalities fills the airwaves. The commentary from last night does not differ markedly (if at all) from the commentary in July, or May, or February. “The Republicans are poised to take the House!” “Obama’s approval ratings have fallen to a new low!” “Democrats are running from all the bills they signed into law with great fanfare – health coverage overhaul, the stimuli, the bailouts, etc.!” Get one with it, already.

    I can think of only one reason why a rational person would vote for a Democratic Congress, considering that they have likely bankrupted the country unless their policies are soon reversed: self-interest. The unions dominate the election season more than any other “special interest,” except they are never called “special interest.” Today, more union members are public employees than they are employees of private companies. So they have an interest in big government, more spending, higher taxes, incessant borrowing and limited accountability – essentially, the Democratic platform – in order to sustain their government jobs (read: SEIU, the biggest union in the country, that represents government workers). Their salaries – much higher than similar jobs in the public sector – and their pensions and perks drain the economy, with minimal productivity to show for it.

   These groups – add the teacher’s unions to the list – are the literal fulfillment of a statement attributed to both Jefferson and Franklin, that “the end of democracy comes when the majority realizes it can vote itself money out of the Treasury.” Add one other group to the list – those people who receive some form of government assistance – and we have a precise list of the Democratic base – those who seek a majority so it can vote itself money out of the Treasury. In essence, 51% of the population can eschew gainful employment but can vote through its representatives to confiscate the earnings of the other 49% of the population. We are not quite at those proportions, but we are getting very close.

     The only way to combat this is through elections, but the process is just too long. I even fear that – despite the predictions – the Republicans might have peaked too soon, like a month ago. They will gain, but not as much as the pundits think. The long season has enabled President Obama to again hit the campaign trail, allowing him to do what he does best – rhetoric – with the concomitant benefit of keeping any new initiatives on the hold. He can shower the country with “hope” and “change” and “fear of going back” to, I suppose, the days of 5-6% unemployment. He can also promise to bestow more money out of the Treasury on people if they support his favored candidates – like the promise of another $250 “cost-of-living increase” to Social Security recipients, notwithstanding that the cost-of-living has remained stable in the last year. Why not ? It’s only money, and it’s not his money he’s giving away.

     The protracted campaign also allows the malice to spew forth, with the outcome in the best of circumstances of voting “for the lesser of two evils” and in the worst, “a pox on both their houses,” which, of course, benefits the Democratic incumbents. The negativity, the lies, and the character assassination – “she’s an ex-witch !” “He cheated on his girlfriend in high school!” – is despicable, and unfortunately works. The media plays a major role in the depressing state of the campaign season, focusing on who’s winning and losing (the endless and inane polling) and emphasizing gaffes rather than policies. We are tempted to throw the bums out without quite knowing what the next group of bums will do. Peoples’ votes are often determined by the punchline of the old joke: a minister was forced to eulogize a particularly odious person, who was widely disliked by the assembled. Stumped for ideas, he turned to the audience, and asked plaintively, “Is there anyone here who has anything positive to say about this fellow?” After a brief pause, someone yelled out, “His brother was worse!” I eagerly await that campaign commercial, spelling out clearly and concisely the candidate’s primary qualification: “the other guy is just worse!” Actually, I think I have seen that one already.

     There is no easy way out of this morass, which is a bi-partisan creation. Each party seeks election to gain for itself the sinecures of power, each party makes promises that it knows it will not keep, and each party enriches itself in office through patronage, private deals, and contributions from interested parties. To roll back the clock and deprive the citizens of the government largesse they have come to expect – each person for his own pet cause or need – is practically impossible. It is hard to wean the suckling infant when there is no other access to milk, and we have become a nation of infants who look to provide every need – housing, job, health care, etc. Just like the crying infant does not care whence his bottle comes, so too most of the electorate does not consider what Ronald Reagan used to routinely say: “Government has no money. It’s all the people’s money.” If people are not bothered by the fact that the government literally seizes their neighbor’s money and gives it to them – with liberal politicians essentially promising that – then nothing will change. No wonder President Obama is targeting the youth vote – they have only known taking, and they are being promises their elders’ money. And the Democratic coalition is further swelled by blacks who vote their skin color and by Jews who vote either because of an ersatz and nonsensical nostalgia for FDR or because of a contrived fear of the “evangelicals.” Whatever the reason, the coalition is a formidable one, and will require a large turnout to overcome.

      Many have said that this is the most important election in American history, and it certainly is – since the last one and until the next one. For sure, the incumbents should be held accountable for their mismanagement, their puerile promises, and their shameless pandering. But with the number of people sipping from the public trough creeping close to the 50% mark, it might be too late to instill a sense of personal responsibility in the electorate. The innate revulsion against the reduction of the American character to those who connive, wallow in helplessness and take and take from others generated the Tea Party movement, which has sown fear in a political establishment that thrives on low turnouts and an uninterested citizenry. But it needs to gather steam now, not dissipate its force.

    With the perpetual campaign already gearing up for 2012, there will be no respite. We need shorter campaigns that would reduce the influence of money, negativity, appeals to emotion, and the foolish spectacles that elections have become. All of which echoes Winston Churchill’s famous barb that “democracy is the worst form of government except all the others that have been tried.” But the same Churchill also stated: “The best argument against democracy is a five minute conversation with the average voter.”

     Let’s hope he was wrong on the latter.

Lies and Liars

     The Democratic National Committee released an advertisement yesterday that accused Republicans of attempting to “steal” the forthcoming elections by using billions of dollars of foreign money to sway voters. The accusation would be devastating, if it were true. Unfortunately for the DNC, they apparently have not a shred of evidence to substantiate their claims and appear to have just flat out lied – as desperate as it is despicable. (They doth protest too much: in 1997, the Justice Department launched an investigation in illegal campaign contributions to Bill Clinton emanating from Chinese government officials. In the end, more than a dozen people were convicted – others fled the US to avoid prosecution – and the names Charlie Trie, James Riady and Johnny Chung might ring a bell.)

      Why do people often tell such bald-faced lies ? And is there a way to deal with them ?

      We recently experienced that phenomenon. The contretemps involving the local “Jewish” newspaper on its publication of a same-sex marriage announcement elicited statements from some internet sources that the Rabbinical Council of Bergen County (RCBC, of which I am a past president) threatened merchants under our kosher supervision that if they did not cease their advertising in that offensive journal, the RCBC would withdraw our supervision. Indeed, a very powerful accusation, with one slight problem.

      It was and is completely false. Not only is it false, but such an issue was never even raised in any of our discussions, no such threats were ever imparted to any merchant and to my knowledge no one even thought of such an idea. It was a complete fabrication, a lie, made up out of whole cloth, without any semblance of truth, utterly baseless.

     For that reason, I will not even print the name of the internet site (that claims to report “Jewish news”) that first published the lie, nor the names of the others that propagated the lie. They are unworthy of mention, clearly dishonest, inappropriate and unreliable vehicles for any decent person attempting to learn anything about anything.

    Sad to say, the internet lends itself to that type of contemptible conduct. Many hosts hide behind a façade of anonymity, and there is simply no way to hold them accountable. They fire their rhetorical rounds with reckless abandon. People can write anything, whether false or even libelous, and then others cite the original source as if it had real substance and authority. That dark corner of the internet has become a wonderful vehicle for social misfits, axe-grinders, lapsed Jews, yeshiva dropouts, failed writers and small thinkers.

    Lying is always an indication of disrespect towards both the subject of the lie and the target audience. It reflects the petty jealousies that often encumber bitter, unhappy people, as well as unresolved anger towards the disfavored targets or institutions – especially rabbis, parents, ex-spouses or ex-bosses. It is simply appalling, but the attraction to those sites – like to anything salacious or sensational – reflects poorly on the spiritual seriousness of the reader who dabbles in sin while thinking himself above it all.

     Words and pens are powerful instruments that shape minds and mold opinions and can make or break relationships. Like anything else meaningful in life, they should be used with great care and a sense of responsibility. But like most other areas of life today, the sense of personal responsibility about anything seems to be dormant, if not non-existent altogether.

     Nevertheless, we have an obligation to expose falsehoods and those who spread them, to challenge them to produce names and dates (in this case, the merchants in question and the Rabbis who approached them). I will go out on the limb and suggest that no such names will ever be offered, because they do not exist and never have existed.

    King David prayed: “G-d, save me from lying lips and a deceitful tongue” (Psalm 122:2). Man is limited in his ability to overcome falsehoods, especially when the liar’s motivation is impure and some readers’ willingness to accept those lies is limitless. Lies often sound better than the truth, certainly have to be more creative, and usually spread like wildfire. It was Winston Churchill who said that “a lie gets halfway around the world before the truth has a chance to get its pants on.”

    And it is not even the substance of the lie in question that is so troubling. I am not averse to boycotting something I find offensive, and encouraging others to boycott as well. It is just one simple fact that irritates: the event in question just never happened, and yet it was reported as if it did happen – like the DNC and their pathetic accusations against the Republicans. To which we should say to them, and to all other liars, as Joseph Welch said to Sen. Joseph McCarthy as the latter’s hearings were falling apart under the weight of some of his false accusations: “Have you no sense of decency, sir? At long last, have you left no sense of decency?”

    So, I put it to you, liars: “Have you no sense of decency ?”

The Standard

Our local “Jewish” weekly newspaper has gotten itself into a pickle of its own making. Several weeks ago, it decided to publish in its wedding section a notice (with picture) of two beaming Jewish males who are “marrying” each other in a ceremony next month. This provoked a storm of criticism from the Orthodox and traditional communities, and – to their credit – the editors of the “Jewish Standard” retracted, sort-of apologized, committed never to do it again, and all in the name of Jewish unity.

     The storm subsided, and the tsunami was unleashed – a deluge (think Noach’s flood) of disparagement and condemnation by the non-Orthodox, leftist, and secular wings of the Jewish world, along with the homosexual lobby that went so far as to link the retraction to the unfortunate suicide last week of an outed Rutgers student as another example of “intolerance.” Since the legitimization of homosexuality and same-sex marriage is one of the most pervasive causes reported today (under the guise of civil rights), journalists have been swooping down all week from across the world on our fair township. I have been called by six reporters – print and electronic media – to comment, which I have not, until now. What to make of this spectacle ?

     The “Standard” is a typical “secular” Jewish weekly. Its style and substance is non-Orthodox (occasionally anti-), and its politics are decidedly left-wing – pro-Democrat, pro-Oslo, pro-abortion, etc. – and the Torah’s views on any issue are assumed to correspond to those of the New York Times’ editorial page. Most people receive the paper because they donate to the local Federation, which deducts a portion of their contribution and forwards it to the paper (and some shuls and temples apparently do the same). In return, the Standard disseminates information about Federation campaigns, fund-raisers and other events.

      I have not read the paper in over a decade, having tired of the simplistic liberalism that informed every commentary, embarrassed by the anti-Torah screeds that were presented as legitimate, Jewish points of view, uncomfortable by the reporting of matters so indecent that I would not have wanted my young children to see it, and not least of all, disgusted by the constant mischaracterization of my views and opinions when I was interviewed.  For a decade, I have adhered to an unwavering policy of not returning their phone calls, and not responding beyond “no comment” when they accidentally caught me. In a word, boycott, and I have publicly urged my congregants to do the same. Some listen, some don’t, and that’s life. Somehow, I don’t lack for information on community events by not reading that paper, and, for years, when people have complained to me about this or that offensive item, I have smiled and explained patiently that “I don’t read that paper, nor should you. And if you did not read it, you would not be so agitated now.”

      That is how I reacted when the publication of the “wedding” announcement was brought to my attention by several distressed congregants. I simply did not know – or frankly, care – whether the Standard printed such announcements, and was even a little surprised that they had not done so in the past. I was even more pleasantly surprised when they retracted after the initial onslaught, for they have not always shown the greatest deference to Orthodox sensibilities in the past.

     There is logic, not to mention good taste, in their retraction. The Standard, I am told, does not print intermarriage announcements, and therefore can simply enunciate a policy that it does not celebrate any union that violates the Torah – a clear and consistent course of action.

      The second (nuclear)explosion now has the Standard scrambling for an effective and cogent response, assuming they don’t retract their retraction. It is an unenviable position: on the one hand, a second retraction will likely lead to mass cancellations among the Orthodox population that still reads it, as it should, and that decline in circulation will certainly affect their advertising rates. On the other hand, their base has always been the non-Orthodox community whose commitment to Torah and Jewish causes is waning from generation to generation, and who now perceive the right of homosexuals to equal treatment across the board as a sacrament.

      And they are in a tizzy for a number of reasons. Aside from the blather about freedom of the press, freedom of speech and the like (which liberals have taken to applying with great selectivity these days) their discontent is grounded in several contentions: firstly, that the Standard has never hesitated to advertise anti-Torah messages, from non-kosher restaurants to programs that desecrate Shabbat and other holy Jewish institutions; secondly, their newfound piety is just pandering to the Orthodox at the expense of the unity and happiness of the broader Jewish community; and finally, and quite naturally, the issue for some always boils down to the question: why are the Orthodox trying to squelch the true and genuine love of two men for each other ? Can’t they just live and let live ? Who could be against love ?

      Well, that is not quite the issue, and the analogy to intermarriage is compelling. The latter also involves forbidden love that is repugnant to the Torah, and should not be legitimated in Jewish life notwithstanding its prevalence. One who aspires to Jewish standards (pardon the pun) should naturally embrace the Torah’s standards of right and wrong, of the permissible and the forbidden. As such, although the Standard’s acceptance of advertising of a variety of sins is lamentable, that – a $$$ issue, after all – is not at all similar to the celebration of a marriage that is antithetical to Torah and the death knell of Jewish continuity. Nor is that “pandering” to the Orthodox; it is merely the recognition that, like it or not, the Orthodox bear the burdens (and privileges) of the preservation of Torah and Jewish life. We are carrying the water (good pun – “there is no water like Torah” [Bava Kamma 17a]) for the rest of Klal Yisrael. Without exaggeration: but for Orthodox Jewry, Torah and the Jewish people would be lost within a generation – and that is why we should be “pandered to” in this matter, in kashrut, in conversion, in areas of marriage and divorce, and on any question of elementary morality and Torah tradition.

      The anguished left claims that the Standard is not representative of the Jewish community because homosexuals are also part of the community and have a right to be treated as such. But not everything that a Jew does is necessarily “Jewish.” We have our share (hopefully, small) of misfits, murderers, thieves, perverts, gangsters and miscreants of all sorts – but nothing they do in the satisfaction of their desires is “Jewish” such that it deserves recognition and acclaim by the Jewish community. Newspapers often detail the sins and failings of man – but they need not celebrate them. These types of announcements are celebrations of sin, and so have no place in any organ that carries “Jewish” on its masthead, or seeks to uphold a “Standard” of any level.

     The “Standard” now runs the risk of alienating at least one major demographic group in Jewish life. They could have dodged this bullet entirely by consulting a friendly Orthodox Rabbi, who could have advised them of the likely reaction in our community. They could have rejected the announcement, but for the allure of appearing trendy and progressive and hip to the contemporary immoral norms. They could maintain the high road of tradition, or they can cave before the fusillade of leftist anger and recriminations and proclaim to all the vacuousness of the “Torah” professed in the non-Orthodox world.

     In a sense, they are hoist on their own petard, with the conceptual flaw that is the undercurrent of every movement outside the Torah framework: in any cultural conflict, whose will prevails – G-d’s or man’s ? Which should take precedence in American Jewish life – the norms of the Torah or the US Constitution ? Whose word is more relevant in modern Jewish life – Rabbi Akiva’s or Thomas Jefferson’s? The Standard has customarily chosen man, the Constitution, and Jefferson – and now is entrapped in the consequences of those choices that afforded its readership the expectation of continued, slavish adherence to modernity at the expense of tradition.

     They need a Houdini-like escape from the ideological shackles in which they are chained, and I await with fascination their response to the outcry on the left. They have a great opportunity to send a message that the Torah is the heritage of all Jews – whether embraced fully or not, and whatever the personal level of observance, and thereby sanctify G-d’s name. I hope they seize that opportunity and remind the world that the Jewish people, after all, do have standards that are eternal and enduring.

UPDATE: I have been informed that just a few hours after this was published, the “Standard” retracted their retraction and apologized for their apology, without committing to any future policy.

Modesty

     Ines Sainz recently received her 16 minutes of fame (one more minute than customary, for reasons that will become clear), leading to potential disciplinary action against the New York Jets. She is the Mexican TV sports reporter whose wardrobe ranges from 1/3-naked to 2/3-naked, and whose scantily-clad presence while “working” a football practice drew excessive attention from some of the distinguished athletes in her vicinity – including hoots, hollers, catcalls and perhaps a dinner invitation or two.

      Throughout, although several footballs were thrown in her direction, Ines was untouched by human hands, and that is one obvious red-line. No person has the right to lay a hand on another without permission, and that type of abuse should not be tolerated by society or its laws. Nevertheless, there has been talk of a sexual harassment lawsuit being filed because she was subject to verbal taunts, notwithstanding that she was able to procure and conduct the interviews she sought. This is where the matter gets a little cloudy.

     It is perplexing when women who dress in order to attract the attention of others protest when they attract that very attention. A person who flaunts his/her body in the workplace – or in public – is asking to be judged by that body and its attributes. It seems unseemly to complain when that judgment is rendered, especially if the judgment is favorable though proffered crudely. The reactions speak to the low moral level of the observers, to be sure, but also to the shallowness of the party who is looking to be noticed and might even be irritated if not noticed. In a word, both sides are at fault, and the incident itself testifies to the further decline of the standards of decency that used to obtain in society. There was a time when lingerie was limited to the bedroom and was inappropriate in the boardroom. Those days are gone, and apparently anyone who points it out becomes labeled as a chauvinistic suppressor of women, or a primitive voyeur with the table manners of a caveman. Actually, all it means is that a person has eyes and values – eyes that increasingly have to remain shut and values that have to be unabashedly reinforced.

     It poses a special problem in the Rabbinate. Rarely does a week pass in the spring and summer that I am not approached by people lamenting the declining standards of dress of some women in shul or walking the streets of our fair neighborhood. Lest you think that these men should mind their own business, I hasten to add that four out of five complainants are women, not men, protesting the visual affront of women (in number, actually very few) coming to shul wearing mini-skirts, micro-sleeves and low-cut blouses. Interestingly, some of these women are themselves stylish but modest dressers, and not all cover their hair outside of shul – but they have a healthy intuitive sense, that used to be prevalent in the Jewish world, that in a shul we strive for our optimum religious behavior, and that even dignified practices that they haven’t adopted yet in the street should certainly be embraced in shul. For example, there are women of a certain age who might wear pants in public – but they would never enter a shul wearing pants, even on a weekday to drop off a flyer. For most of the younger generation, that sort of discretion seems to have been lost, another victim of feminism that has empowered women, among other types of empowerment, to dress however-they-please even at the cost of their good sense or halachic propriety.

     Cynics might think that the complaining women are “jealous,” but nothing could be further from the truth. They are merely troubled by what they rightly see as a problem in our world, and are especially troubled by parents who allow their teenage daughters to leave the sartorial demands of their weekday yeshivot on the dressing room floor and dress on Shabbat in what used to be considered beachwear. And since I have been told – because I never would have guessed – that women dress primarily for other women, not men, many women feel that their spiritual experience is shul is cheapened by the fashion show sashaying about and the chatter it invariably provokes.

     Invariably, these complainants wish me to address these matters publicly, from the pulpit, excoriating the offenders so they will be shamed into adding more material to their clothing. I have noticed that Rabbis have generally shied away from doing just that, excepting those who will offer learned discourses on the appropriate length of sleeves, skirts and necklines, usually to the already modestly-dressed. The area is a tough nut to crack, because some women will complain that the Rabbi shouldn’t be looking (true, but irrelevant; he may not even see it), or that there are more important issues in the world to discuss (always true… especially when you touch a sensitive chord with someone; that is when “preaching” steps over the line into “meddling”!), or that it is just another indication of the insensitive rabbinate’s contempt for women, yada, yada, yada. I have on several occasions authorized women to speak to the offenders, and even to address the issue publicly; all, to date, have declined to take me up on the offer.

     On the other hand, not to address the issue is a Rabbinic copout, despite the discomfort it causes on all sides. It is a valid point, and it is one of the ModOs failings that tzniut is often not even construed as a religious concern – which is precisely how the general society sees it. There was a recent buzz when a graduate of Maimonides appeared on a reality-TV show featuring models, and this particular young woman – a self-described “modern Orthodox, Sabbath-observant Jew” – ditched her commitment to Sabbath-observance for the duration as soon as she learned it would impair her chances of winning the prize modeling job. The broader question is: how does a yeshiva graduate see her future as a fashion model in the secular world ? The very job requires a person to showcase her body as the means by which she will earn her living, or acclaim. To be a fashion model is as suitable to a Torah Jew as is being a hunter, and about as common.

     So, what is there to say, beyond the technicalities of inches here and there ? In truth, while the inches matter, tzniut is more about presentation and attitude that about lengths and widths. A tight-fitting outfit that looks like it has been painted on (from the Ines Sainz collection, perhaps ?) is as immodest as anything that is too short, even though the requisite parts of the body are dutifully covered. The Jewish laws of modesty focus on one critical point: we demean ourselves when we seek to be perceived and judged primarily as bodies.

    Every human being, male and female, was created b’tzelem elokim, in the image of G-d, and we degrade ourselves by seeking acclamation not for those attributes or activities that foster that divine image but for the accident of our physical shell. Nothing can be more humiliating than to be judged primarily on our looks rather than on our spiritual or intellectual achievements. Clearly, the soul endures, whereas the body erodes over time, even while we are alive. We should seek to be defined by what pleasures the soul and not the body – and that is the essence of tzniut.

    Any person who calls attention to himself/herself because of some physical characteristic engages in an act of self-debasement, and is looking to be treated as an object, not a person. There was a time when women recognized that to be demure was not only classy but alluring. That was a gift of Torah society that had pervaded the general culture. It is when Jews again take the lead, and discard the world view of Ines Sainz and her loutish hecklers, that we will be recognized and lauded as a kingdom of priests and a holy nation and lead the world back to its moral equilibrium.